As of lately, I’ve been having very unique encounters with friends. Likely I always do, maybe recently I’ve just been more aware of them. I started challenging myself a little more because of some of these encounters. I started searching for more knowledge, understanding, and progress as an individual.
A close friend of mine suggested I start listening to audio books. He set aside a goal for himself to listen a minimum of an hour everyday. Regardless of what his ultimate goal is with these audio books, I realized a lot of things. An hour a day, is not a whole lot of time. You can do a lot in an hour. Why couldn’t I also commit to doing the same thing to help progress my life. Of course, I started. Kicked it off with “The Richest Man in Babylon”, the one my friend suggested I start with. I got myself a small note book, and I sit in a coffee shop, my house, or outside, for an hour a day and write notes.
In a short amount of time I learned a quality amount. Not only that, but my thought process shifted. I started dividing up my thoughts to work towards more knowledge. Which grew even more so beyond that.
Get a Grip
I’ve got into the habit of calling my hour of learning “studying”. When I tell people, they immediately ask what I’m going to school for. Much to my liking I can answer that it’s just personal studies to learn more. I realized that I have a drive I didn’t see within myself that needed a little jump start to begin.
Life tends to continuously through new and exciting challenges at us, and cycles through a series of tasks and lessons that we sometimes can’t understand. That’s okay. It’s a wonderful design to live by if you see it. Why do we tend to aim so much at monotonous tasks that seemingly get us no where, which defeats the purpose of the lessons we are given.
It’s often said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
I can agree with that. How do we get ourselves out of this cyclical nature of always being upset, annoyed, frustrated, and defeated? How can it be that no matter how many times I try, it doesn’t work out?
People lack adaption abilities. For some reason, the second we get comfortable with something we stick to it and ride it out like hell without letting go. We become attached to something we can not control, which further lets it fall out of control. Yet isn’t that just it, we don’t control it. We can’t. The only thing you can control is yourself, whether you think you can or not. In a lot of ways it’s a skill to be able to analyze a situation, try to genuinely understand it from a different perspective, and move forward. Just as much as it’s a habit not to.
What’s the point of doing that to ourselves? To others? I don’t think there is one. I think we just try to control our lives from the fear of not being able to, that we slip, break, and get stuck. It’s a lack of presence in the current moment. We try to create a non-existent understanding of our future to control the outcome, when the outcome doesn’t exist yet. How can we be expected to live a healthy life if all we are doing is holding on tight to control it, when that control will never truly exist?
Getting the Big Picture
What is the big picture for you? Working day in an out, getting paycheck to paycheck? Watching the next big movie or TV series? Waiting for the next opportunity? College, if so for what? These are all details of life, but what are they based around?
These are the details that you need to sweat, the monotony. What are you doing today? Why? If we live our life without a big picture, or a goal in mind, we can give purpose to those monotonous details that seem ever fleeting and useless. The ones that make us feel stuck. This is something that toils around in my head everyday.
“Opportunity waits for no man.”
What is your big picture? What are you trying to do? I’d like to know that I’m working towards something genuine and true. I have 1 year, 5 year, and even some 10 year goals. All geared towards personal life, business, living, understanding of myself, and much more. I’m not trying to control it though. I’m trying to see it happen before me, opportunities are EVERYWHERE. If you sit around waiting for them, or you live that monotony and dull out your life in useless tasks, you’ll miss it.
Patience, adaption, and compassion keep me on a path that I want to travel. Lives, events, and moments come in and out, but at the end of the day we have the genuine relationships built, yourself, and God. Those are all things that can’t be controlled and forced. Those are forces within themselves that take time to understand, focus, and nurturing. If you lose sight of it, you’ll miss it.
You are driving your down the road. A nail gets lodged, and the tire goes flat. You search for the reason why the tire went flat. If you’re looking at the other tires, and ignoring the flat, you’ll never get it fixed. Same as if you’re only looking at the flat tire and not doing anything, it will never be fixed. Wait, you’re trying to get somewhere aren’t you? How do you get there? By removing the nail, fixing the flat, and remembering what the tire is doing. Without action, we live on the side of the road, with knowing what 3 full tires looks like, and leaving the flat one sitting there. Then you’ll surely never continue on to where you were going.
We have the opportunity to learn, progress, grow, understand, adapt, develop, cherish, and prosper EVERY. DAY. As much as we have the option to whine, complain, moan, make excuses, wallow in pity, and give in every, single, day. There is so much potential out for both, it’s a choice in every moment to decide what it is that you’re aiming for, with unlimited opportunity to head in either direction. It takes each of those small moments and little details that culminate. If you want to get your life to where you want, you have to sweat the details, with a big picture in mind. Take action to get there and do your best everyday.
I don’t want to get to the “end”, whenever that may be, and realize that I spent time wasting such a precious gift that I was given.
Where do you want to be, and how are you going to get there?